Father Care

Hell at home

2009-05-31T07:15:00.000-07:00

May 28, 2009.
She is a piano teacher but the only sound one hears in her house are the cries and screams of her 5 year old son, who she has been abusing for the past three years.

Doctor who examined the boy were horrified by his injuries; there were fresh scars on top of old injuries - a sure sign of constant beatings.

The boy had injuries from the top of the head right to his feet.

When welfare department confranted the single mother, she just brushed it off saying her son was naughty and was

always falling down. However, the truth came out finally when welfare officers rescued the boy and took him to the hospital.

The son had so many injuries that doctors who examined him were taken aback as there was barely a spot on his body that had no scars.

It was learnt that the mother had a "complicated life" and was now divorced from the boy's father who had never helped raise the boy.

Parents who abuse their children are in need of help. One in every three parents who grow up in a physically abusive environment tends to be abusive towards their children.

Some parents argue that they hit their children because they are trying to teach their children well if they are honest, they will admit that they are venting their anger.Parent often choose physical punishment over the non-physical method because it is faster and easier.

Parents hit their children when they were frustrated with them did not know effective parenting method. Teaching a child involves a lot of patience and effort.

Parenting - Eating Habits

2009-05-18T19:13:00.000-07:00

Do and don't tips on getting your tots to eat well

Today what children eat and how they learn, act and think is highly related. Their thinking brain is an engine that needs the right fuel to make it run. Thus, the better you feed the brain, the better it works.

DO

Offer your child one or two healthy snacks
In addition to their three main meals, give them nuts, yogurt or wholegrain crackers.

Make food appear attractive
Children always pink what they think looks good, so cry cutting or decorate vegetables of different shapes and colours into interesting patterns. You can also serve dishes on the crockery in citrus colours like orange as it will stimulates their appetite.

Involve your child in planning and preparing the meals
This is the opportunity to explain the nutritional value of each food. This way, they will feel motivated to choose a healthy food by themselves.

Be a role model
Your child usually will learn from you, so be conscious about your reaction to healthy foods. If you are choosy about food, eventually, they will be followed.

Read food nutrition labels
choose foods with low or no sugar and salt added foods. For example, offer your child a plain water instead of a soda drink, or healthy biscuit instead of fast foods.

DON'T

Don't Give up
Children usually will reject foods, such as vegetables. Tell then to try at least a bit, but don't expect them to finish the whole plate. An average about 8 times for a child to decide to eat what presented. Don't make food an emotional meals Persuade them slowly with patience and affection instead of forcing them to eat a particular food.

Don't leave the TV on during meals
Children will be consume more fried foods or junk foods as a result of advertisements for unhealthy foods suck as carbonated drinks and high sugar snacks.

Don't offer alternatives
Offer your child to eat the same dishes as you, thus, make them understand that they won't have any other foods option.

The best way to keep your child smart is to serve them nutritious brain-boosting foods.

Parenting - Colic Relief

2009-05-12T19:35:00.000-07:00

My younger twin girl at 2 months old.

At that age, she already shows sign of a naughty and playful girl inherited from her father at his young age.

During the day, she is indeed a happy baby, sleeps and drinks and loves to bath and play in the water. When time comes to say goodnight, her nightmare begins.....

She will starts to cry and cry non-stop for hours until 3 to 4 am every night for myself and my hubby. It was our first time caring for babies and we really do not know what is wrong with her crying...... no matter how we console her, rock her, sing to her, still no difference; her crying is getting louder and stronger. The only thought we have at that moment was might be her stomach in pain and thus we just rub "yu yee oil" (Chinese traditional oil is used for relief of minor aches and pains of muscles and joints, symptoms of stomach ache and cold) on her stomach.... its helps but after a while the crying comes back.

After few nights of crying which we can't resist to see our precious baby in that condition every night, we decided to bring her to a pediatrician. The pediatrician confirmed that she is having colic which normally srikes baby at 2 months old. Colic drops have to be taken everyday and it really helps and reduces her crying. In addition, rubbing of "yu yee oil" on her stomach also relieves her stomach wind.

As an old Chinese saying: "Unfinished milk by baby should not be kept too long and re-warm for the baby to consume again. This may cause wind in the stomach."

We are also recommeded from the elders that consuming gripe water everyday after bath also can relief colic. We do try it and it really works. Slowly day by day until when Jynn is 4 months old, finally she has her good night sleep without anymore pain on her stomach which she has to suffer and go through for 2 months. Is indeed a great moment for myself, my hubby and also her twin sister, Lynn, who is always just keep quiet listening to her sister's crying every night without a moan which she knows that she can't do anything to help and console her younger sister.

Father Care

2009-05-03T09:02:00.000-07:00

30th June, 2008 was my last day working as a Finance Manager in a big international company. I have been thinking of what a good career opportunity in such a big company, but I have chose to leave due to the tension and pressure among the staff and the management.

My wife was finally pregnant after 8 years of our marriage and the scan shows two heart beat which the gynecologist confirmed is a twin. From that day onwards, I had made up my mind that I will take good care for my 2 little princesses.

8 months old, Quy-Jynn & Quy-Lynn

9th September, 2008. My twin girls are born. Two adorable un-identical twins were delivered from my wife's belly right in front of me. I felt like i am the happiest papa on earth.

My wife is having a good career in her company, so we have decided that i have to take care of my two princesses at home and i will work from home doing some part-time accounting work and investing into options & shares, while my wife will work full time.

I was really enjoying taking care my daughters and the first 5 months were very enjoying taking care of them .When they reach 6 months old, my nightmare begins ..........

They use to be very fast finishing their milk, and they fast asleep but without any noise. Now, while drinking their milk, they will make noises, push the bottle away or even smile with you as if you are playing with them. They will make a lot of noises or cry before bed time and want a lullaby to be sang to them every night. When one cries, the other will follow.... ended up both crying at the same time.

After getting advices from both our parents, gradually,I have been able to overcome these situations. This does not mean I manage to do 100% entirely, but at least I had reduced part of my nightmare. With the help of my wife at night, I have also improve my knowledge on how to raise my two daughters step by step... a good discipline.

Can father do the job? Obviously YES. Most women encourage fathers to take care of their baby full time, however, fathers have to work in order to provide for their family.

My two daughters are now 8 months old, i am happy taking care both of them full time. In this process, I do understand my love that have been given, my time have been sacrificed and practicing to be a more patience person.......

My new born twin babiesin at their 1st week........